1. Agree on parenting arrangements

Agree on parenting arrangements

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Overview

Parenting arrangements are about agreeing on how to care for your child.

If you’re experiencing family violence, you may need other support

You and your child's safety come first when trying to sort out parenting disagreements outside the Family Court. If you or your child are experiencing family violence, some of these services may not be right for you.

Find out more about family violence

When to apply for an urgent court order

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Parents, guardians, and whānau should try to work together

Your child's best interests should always be the most important thing when working out parenting arrangements. Children need their parents, whānau and friends in their lives. Whānau can also play a part in the child's day-to-day care.

It’s important to maintain these relationships for a child’s overall wellbeing. Parents, guardians, and whānau should try work together to agree on how everyone can be involved.

Services and resources are available to help you and others involved to have these conversations. You can choose to write down your arrangements, so everyone understands what they’ve agreed to. If everyone agrees on how to care for your child, you don’t need to do anything else.

Sometimes, you may need to apply to the court to turn your parenting arrangements into a court order. This could be because you think you may need the court to enforce the ‘Parenting Order’ later.

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